As couples embark on the exciting journey of planning their special day, it’s easy to get caught up in the whirlwind of decisions and details. However, being aware of certain unspoken rules can make all the difference in ensuring a smooth and stress-free experience. Here are the top ten essential guidelines to help newlyweds-to-be avoid common pitfalls and bring their wedding visions to life!
The Art Of Gift-Giving…
When it comes to wedding gifts, it’s common for guests to be unsure about what to give. To avoid any confusion, consider adding a gift-related note to your invitations. By providing a range of registered gift options at different price points, you’ll show your appreciation for all guests’ generosity. Additionally, include a Wishing Well card to offer an alternative option – allowing loved ones to contribute financially if that’s what they prefer.
Remember, it’s the thought that counts, not the amount. Keeping things accessible and considerate of varying budgets can go a long way in ensuring everyone feels included.
Gratitude…
As you embark on your new life together, it’s essential to express gratitude for the thoughtful gifts you received during your wedding celebration. A handwritten thank-you card is a lovely way to acknowledge your guests’ kindness and make them feel valued. Timing plays a crucial role in sending these cards, as you want to ensure they don’t get lost in the shuffle of post-wedding activities. For engagement parties and showers, aim to send your notes 2-3 weeks after the event.
When it comes to gifts received before the wedding, make sure to mail your thank-you cards beforehand. Any gifts given at the actual wedding should receive a heartfelt note within three months of your special day.
Lights, Camera, Action!
In recent years, a set of unwritten rules surrounding phone use at weddings has emerged. As the bride and groom’s special day unfolds, it’s essential for them to put their phones away – they won’t need them, after all! For guests, being mindful of the photographer is crucial; avoid using your phone as a prop or getting in the way of capturing those cherished moments. During the ceremony, refrain from taking photos, especially if you notice a camera trained on your direction.
If the wedding has a no-phone policy, respect the couple’s wishes and keep your device on silent mode. Remember, there’s no sneaking in quick snaps! Additionally, refrain from posting wedding images on social media until the couple themselves has done so.
Budgeting In Your Vendors…
When it comes to planning your special day, your vendors play a crucial role in making sure everything runs seamlessly. To avoid any last-minute hiccups and ensure top-notch performances from your photographers, DJs, and videographers, consider showing your appreciation with a meal. Not only will this help keep them energized and motivated throughout the event, but it’s also an investment worth considering as it may be included in their contracts.
By providing a satisfying meal, you’ll not only show your vendors that you value their hard work, but also contribute to creating a positive and enjoyable experience for everyone involved.
RSVPs…
While it’s natural for not all guests to attend a special celebration, it’s essential to extend invitations regardless of their response. This approach prevents miscommunications and potential hurt feelings. On the other hand, failing to RSVP can cause undue stress for the hosts. As they plan the day based on guest counts, a last-minute surprise arrival without notice is unacceptable.
As a considerate guest, take the time to respond promptly when receiving an invitation, thereby allowing the couple to prepare accordingly and minimizing their stress.
Flowers…
When planning a wedding or special event, it’s crucial to consider the characteristics of the flowers you’ve chosen. For instance, those breathtaking hydrangeas might seem like a perfect match for your beachside wedding theme, but the intense summer sun can quickly wilt them. To avoid these common mistakes, it’s essential to factor in the time of year, season, availability, and cost of certain arrangements.
By doing so, you’ll be able to create a stunning display that complements your event’s atmosphere. Consider inviting your florist to your venue to collaborate on bringing your vision to life – within reason, of course!
Money, Money, Money…
When it comes to planning a wedding, finances can be a sensitive topic that can put even the strongest friendships to the test. To avoid any discomfort or tension among your closest friends and family, it’s essential to have an open and honest conversation about costs and expectations for your bridal party. This means considering everyone’s budget when choosing dresses, or offering to help cover some expenses if those in your inner circle are struggling to meet them.
It may not be the easiest discussion to have, but being upfront about cost expectations early on can help prevent any awkwardness or resentment later on.
Dress Code…
As wedding guests, we’re all too familiar with the unwritten rule that white is off-limits for our attire. To avoid any awkwardness or uncertainty, it’s crucial to clearly communicate your dress code expectations on the invitation. By providing as much detail and information as possible, you’ll not only ensure your guests feel comfortable but also alleviate their stress about what to wear.
After all, who wants to worry about dressing appropriately when they’re supposed to be celebrating with the happy couple? Providing a clear dress code guideline upfront is a thoughtful touch that will leave your guests feeling grateful for the heads-up.
Plus One…
When receiving wedding invitations, it’s crucial to pay attention to the fine print. Specifically, if a ‘plus one’ option hasn’t been explicitly stated, refrain from bringing an additional guest. Similarly, avoid adding a plus one to your RSVP card without prior permission. The consequences of an unexpected guest arrival can be devastating for the bride and groom. On the other hand, couples should strive to include the names of their guests’ plus ones on the invitation itself.
This thoughtful gesture not only makes the guest feel included but also eliminates potential confusion regarding who is invited and who isn’t. It’s a small detail that can make a significant difference in ensuring a smooth and enjoyable wedding experience.
Wedding Planner…
As you embark on the journey of planning your wedding, remember that the beauty lies not just in the final result, but in the process itself. Take time to cherish moments with your partner, family and friends – it’s an opportunity to bond and create lasting memories. However, don’t let budget constraints dictate your decision to forgo a wedding planner altogether. Unforeseen issues can arise, and having a professional on hand can be a lifesaver.
Whether you hire someone for the week of, day of or even hourly, they’ll help tackle last-minute tasks, ease stress and enable you to fully appreciate those final days leading up to your big day. For inspiration, check out Lucinda and Simon’s wedding story [Here](link). As you plan, be sure to follow these Instagram accounts – it’ll be worth the follow!